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Do I send a thank you note after I attend a party, How to be a good party guest, Party Don'ts, Party Etiquette, Should you bring a hostess gift to a party
I don’t think that anyone expects anyone else to be perfect at every turn in life. I mean after all, what fun would that be? What fun would it be if we were all so stiff and proper that the thought of letting loose and getting funky with your friends was simply out of the question?
I like to have fun just like the next girl, but I have a line and I like to think that I tow it pretty well and don’t create problems that will have a hostess reconsidering inviting me to her next get together.
RSVP
Express your intentions
Always RSVP to the event you have been invited to. Regardless of how you have received the invitation makes it no less important to inform the host or hostess of your intentions.
If your plans change at anytime, notify the hostess right away.
In my book, it is the epitome of rudeness not to RSVP. However it seems like in this day of Social Media and most gatherings being created via Facebook events pages, causes the importance of the event to slip and become “no big deal.” There is no thought to the fact that regardless of how an invitation is received, the same work goes into planning the event, and therefore deserves the same respect as a mailed or personal invitation.
The No Show
Not showing up to an event that you said you were going to attend requires a Doctors Note or a Death Certificate. If you said were going, or worse, said you would provide something for that event and don’t show, odds are you will no longer be on that persons guest list for future events.
Not a guaranteed excuse
Not knowing When to Say When
The house is empty of most guest, the party mess is cleaned up, but there is still one or two that are oblivious.
Almost as bad as not showing up, is not knowing when to go home. over staying your welcome is like the pink elephant in the room. It is uncomfortable for the host or hostess. If you are one of these people, consider carpooling with a friend that you know will leave the party at an appropriate time or take a cab, ask the driver to return at a specified time to pick you up.
For the Host, at some point we all have to deal with this personality. Asking them if you may call them a cab or have someone drive them home, they will likely decline the offer as they don’t want to bother anyone. Meanwhile they are still in your house at two am, while you yearn for sleep. Turning on all the lights and turning off the music is often a sign that the party has come to an end, sometimes, you have to turn the lights off again and just say goodnight.
Don’t let a bad party reputation get you kicked off the invite list. The Rules are simple.
RSVP
Dress appropriately, if you’re not sure what to wear, ASK!
Arrive on time. Don’t arrive early unless invited to do so.
Bring a hostess gift. It is always duly noted!
Never be the last to go home. Pay attention to the signs that the party is winding down.
Don’t ask if you can turn on the ball game your missing or try to change the music.
Never assume the host has a place for you to sleep in the event you drink too much.
Send or leave a proper thank you. A personal handwritten note is best and will guarantee you an invite next time.
Don’t post photos on Social Media without permission.
Don’t tell the world your going to a party if it is an invite only event. This could put the Host /Hostess in a precarious situation by those not invited.
21st Century Etiquette 